So the other day I was talking about limiting beliefs on my Instagram stories and got really good response from it and a few people suggested that I go into more detail in a podcast episode. So, I thought I’d go ahead and knock that out since it’s such an important topic.
In this post, I touched briefly on limiting beliefs and how they of course can hold you back, as well as how you can use journaling to argue against them and create new, more empowering beliefs in their place.
Today were are going to be talking about limiting beliefs to help you understand why this ALWAYS, yes always, needs to be in the forefront of your mind. Why it’s SO important and crucial to your life and evolution as a person to uncover any limiting beliefs you may have, and also how to use your emotions as a tool to pinpoint them.
Because sometimes they’re not blatantly obvious. They can be suuuuper sneaky.. especially if you’ve been carrying them around a long time. Alright?
So really quickly a belief is just a thought you keep thinking. And a limiting belief is a thought you keep thinking that’s hindering yourself in some way. Typically most of our limiting beliefs are about ourselves and our self-identity but they can also be about other people and the world in general, too.
And the reason why limiting beliefs are so sneaky is because we subconsciously take on most of them early in life, like through experiences as a child. We often inherit these beliefs directly from our parents and caregivers, too.
Think about it, when you were a kid everything out of your parents’ mouthes or probably any adult for that matter you took to be truth, right?? Of course, that’s what we were all taught: to listen to our elders because it was the respectable thing to do. So if your parents, or whomever you were listening to, had limiting beliefs passed down from their parents and so on and then projected them on you (not in a malicious way of course), but because they probably didn’t realize it themselves, you probably never questioned any of their beliefs or anything they said because how would you ever even think to?You were a child.
BUTTT then you grow into an adult who is responsible for creating her own reality and future, which is much more difficult when you’re still carrying around any old, limiting beliefs that you picked up earlier in life.
So an example would be if you grew up in an environment where money was hard to come by. You could possibly take on the belief that making money is difficult. Or only the people that born into money will ever truly be wealthy. And it’s pretty obvious how limiting that is,
but also let’s take note of how false it is too, right???
I’m sure you can think of someone or several people right now who are very wealthy but grew up very poor. The first people to come to mind for me is Tony Robbins and Oprah Winfrey. Both are super open about their struggles growing up and all the obstacles they had to overcome, and they’re a self made millionaire and billionaire, respectively. All because they both were able to imagine a better life for themselves and, most importantly, believe it was actually possible to achieve- despite what their childhood and beyond belief system was limited to.
So that’s just one example of how limiting beliefs can sneak in to your subconscious and potentially affect your life. But they can take on so many different forms. I could literally spend all day naming out different limiting beliefs, but long story short, if you’ve ever thought to yourself “I’m not smart enough, or pretty, or talented or lucky… or I don’t have enough time..or resources..” or anything like that at all-those are all limiting beliefs that could potentially be holding your back right now.
And we all have them, by the way.. no one gets through life without these things. They’re all part of the human experience. The WORK is to figure out what they are so that you can dispel them and then believe something different, because when you’re able to do that the old belief loses its grip over you and you will start taking different actions which will yield different results in your life.
And that’s EXACTLY why uncovering limiting beliefs is SO incredibly critical for your future.
Because it is a proven fact that your thoughts and beliefs dictate your actions.
Sooo if your current beliefs won’t even allow you to consider a greater life for yourself...and a greater life could look like anything. Maybe a healthier relationship, or a more fulfilling career, healthier habits, more money, etc. If you can’t even wrap your mind around the fact that any of those things are possible for someone like yourself because you are too this or not enough or it’s too difficult.. or whatever.. Then guess what? You’re right. It’s a total self fulfilling prophecy because how can you possibly take action toward something you won’t even allow yourself believe in the first place?
And likewise. For those of us that CAN get as far as envisioning more for yourself (my dreamers I’m talking to you), you still have to believe to your core that it’s possible if you’re going to make the thing happen.
Right? You can wish things to be different all day long. You can daydream and journal and meditate and vision board the heck out of the dream life or relationship or career or body that you want, but if deep down you don’t believe you’re good or worthy enough to have the thing or if you don’t truly believe in your ability to create it...then again, you will never take the appropriate actions to get there.
So let’s demonstrate this with a business example:
I’m sure there’s some big goal you’re working toward, or you say you’re working toward, right now that you would love to achieve. Whether that be earning a car or a certain level of income or some prestigious award. And the reason why this is a big goal is because there’s probably a lot of steps between where you are now and the thing you want that you have to take to achieve it. With most big goals, you’re probably going to encounter some obstacles on your path along the way, too.. right??
Of course you are. That’s the nature of business and life. If you encounter one of these obstacles and it requires you to make some type of change or sacrifice in your life in order to bypass it, what do you think is going to happen if you have some sneaky limiting belief popping up reminding you that you’re not good enough, smart enough, worthy, or whatever it is to get the thing you want????
If you don’t check that limiting belief at the door, you’re going to end up making excuses for yourself or feed yourself the lie that you really don’t want the thing anyway. Even though you know that’s not true, you probably won’t even attempt to bypass the obstacle because why would you make changes toward something you don’t believe is possible?
See how that works?
SO often we end up defending and clinging to our own limitations, because we don’t have the awareness of how much more fulfilling life would be if we stopped believing everything we thought.
I’m gonna say that one more time in another way, when push comes to shove and life gets hard. and limiting beliefs creep into our thought, which, they always will. Because so many of us don’t have the awareness of the fact they’re not even true and that you literally can rid yourself from these beliefs and replace them with new ones. Because we don’t understand that or even, when life gets hard we end up defending our perceived limitations like our lives depend on it by making excuses for ourselves so we don’t have to get uncomfortable to do what’s necessary to get what we really want out of life.
But what if, after listening to this, and now that you DO have more of an awareness of what’s going, you made the conscious choice to do things differently and to start watching out for these limiting beliefs?
Could you do that?? Of course you can.
Let’s say next time you encounter an obstacle while working toward a goal and a limiting belief pops up. Instead of yielding to it, you shed light on it and you question it. You realize it’s complete bull and not serving you at all.
Instead of reaching for an excuse for WHY you’re limited in your ability to reach your goal, you get to work replacing that limiting belief with a more empowering one that supports the version of you who can have EVERYTHING she puts her mind to, that she’s willing to work toward.
THAT is the belief that will lead to the appropriate decisions to overcome obstacles and ultimately achieve your biggest goals.
So powerful right???
So that’s my call to action for you. Start paying attention to your thoughts and start paying attention to your emotions, too. If you feel like crap about something in your life, there’s a reason why. Maybe deep down you know you’re not living to your full potential and maybe the reason why is because you won’t allow yourself to think the appropriate thoughts that will lead to the actions to get you there.
When you do uncover a limiting belief, I recommend to first try journaling on it. Like I said I got into the specifics of this here, but in a nutshell, write it out honestly with no filter. Then argue against it like your life depends on it, because it does.
After you do that, replace that old belief with a new one and PRACTICE believing it. Don’t just write it out once and expect yourself to do a complete 180. Go back and read it everyday. Create an affirmation. Pray on it. Do the work to adopt it.
If it’s something more deep seeded and journaling doesn’t seem to be doing the trick, then consider investing in yourself and seek some type of counseling or therapy. But PLEASE I beg you to try this for yourself. I wish I had learned about this years before I did. It breaks my heart for people that go through their whole lives never once questioning the thoughts and beliefs that rule their actions and ultimately their life.
If you’re a parent or if you plan on becoming one one day, keep this in mind for your own children. We all know kids brains are like sponges soaking up every little thing we say. Feed them words of encouragement and be mindful of the blanket statements you say about life and other people.
This reminds me of something I once read about Thomas Edison, and I’m not sure if it’s real. I’m sure the story is embellished some. Either way, it’s a beautiful example of the power of the words we say to our children.
So the story goes…
One day when Thomas Edison was a young boy he came home and gave a paper to his mother. He told her, “My teacher gave this paper to me and told me to only give it to my mother.”
His mother’s eyes were tearful as she read the letter out loud to her child: Your son is a genius. This school is too small for him and doesn’t have enough good teachers for training him. Please teach him yourself.
After many, many years, after Edison’s mother died and he was now one of the greatest inventors of the century, one day he was looking through old family things. Suddenly, he saw a folded paper in the corner of desk drawer. He opened it up and on the paper was written: Your son is addled [mentally ill]. We won’t let him come to school any more.
Edison cried for hours and then he wrote in his diary: “Thomas Alva Edison was an addled child that, by a hero mother, became the genius of the century.”
Shew!! Like I said, I don’t know how much truth there is to that, but regardless, it’s a powerful reminder of the responsibility we have as adults who have the power to mold young minds to become their best selves.
And the last thought I’ll leave you with is this. Imagine if Oprah or Tony Robbins were never able to overcome their own limiting beliefs and the dysfunctional environments they grew up in. All the good they’ve created in this world and all the lives they’ve completely transformed never happened because they didn’t do the work on their minds first in order to get past all the obstacles that life handed them.
It would be devastating right?? Thank GOD both we’re able to do that and believe in their own power.
Now imagine it’s 10 years from now and someone else or maybe even myself says the same thing about you. Imagine if so and so never did all the incredible things she ended up accomplishing and all the lives she ended up blessing because she didn’t overcome her limiting beliefs.
Thank GOD she did and Thank God for all the good she’s created in this world.
Think about that. If they can do it, so you can you babe.